One hurdle that a lot of guys have trouble with is making the girl feel comfortable and comfortable in her place. This shouldn’t be a problem. If you’ve shared time properly, it builds comfort and trust with the girl, but sometimes even if you have, they’ll be a little hesitant and nervous. There are two main things you can do to make sure a girl feels comfortable in your home.
1. Have a nice place.
2. Suppose she has been there before.
Now let’s talk about what I mean by ‘Pleasant’. Money means nothing in terms of getting ugly. Unless you like shallow women, you won’t get more action just because you have a mansion. Having a nice place means having a place that follows the triple C’s. Clean, Comfortable, Cozy. You can have a multi-million dollar mansion that doesn’t follow the three C’s and isn’t good at bringing in girls either.
A giant crack house is still a crack house. When your place follows the three C’s, girls can afford to go into Fantasy mode. They see themselves lounging around your house, totally comfortable in pajamas or something. They love. Basically, if a girl can’t see herself fitting into your lifestyle, then she’s much less likely to have anything more than a one night stand with you. This is fine if you’re looking for nothing more than a one-night stand, but if you’re looking for more of her, you’ll want to help her slip into this fantasy mode. Try to visualize a really sexy girl lounging in a messy room, where she’s almost covered in trash. Pretty hard huh? Hardly ANY girl would do that. So keep your house clean. This is rule number 1. Girls will feel that their dirty house reflects a dirty lifestyle in general.
Going out with messy hair will make girls conclude that your life (not just your hair) is a mess. A house does this ten times more. Coziness and comfort are also very helpful in getting girls into fantasy mode. When you have nice furniture (comfort) and soft things like cushions (comfort), girls can visualize themselves relaxing at your place. That’s a great place to put a girl’s mind when she’s at a new friend’s house. Remember again that money is not necessary here.
You can buy some cushions or a comfortable sofa cheaply. Give it some thought and spend some time designing your place and it will make it much easier to have girls in your life in abundance. The other great way to make a girl feel comfortable in your place is to bring her in with the mindset that she’s been there before. When you bring your good friends, you don’t walk in and say, “Okay, this is the living room. This is the guest room.” and etc
You walk in and plop down on the couch. You should do this with a new girl too. If he needs to know where something is, he will ask. Most of the time they will just flop down next to you. A great technique to add to this level of comfort is to have a “no shoes in the house” rule. When you enter just say “shoes” and take off yours. Not only will she feel more comfortable, but now she knows that she will be staying for a while. 😉
crazy friend