When we think of lesbians, the word “erotic” and “fantasy” comes to mind for most heterosexuals; However, the irony is that we really are not different from them in many ways. When we hear the word lesbian, we can think of relationship, person, woman, love, drama, or heartache. We are often so busy identifying what our sexuality means and how it relates to the world that our sensual side is often forgotten and unloved.
We focus so much on pleasing everyone else, parents, friends, work, children, and of course our partners that our inner sexual goddess is left out. Having sexual confidence has enormous power in maintaining a healthy lesbian relationship and is the key to attraction if you are a single lesbian.
One of the most attractive aspects of an individual is his confidence, regardless of his orientation. A woman who feels attractive, comfortable in her body and sexual is automatically perceived as sexy !!! The wonderful thing about being confident and sexy is that you don’t have to look like a super model or one of the L Word girls.
When you have sexual confidence, you have the magic of seduction, you are able to take responsibility for what you like. You let go of all the walls and barriers that may be holding you back and you are able to relax and enjoy sex. Being a seductive lesbian means knowing what you want and how to get it, you can initiate sex and don’t worry about letting your woman know your most intimate desires and longings.
A seductive lesbian (aka you!) Is powerful, assertive in character, knows what she wants and needs, and how to ask for it. A Seductress is connected to her sexual personality and is smart enough to adapt and change quickly and maintain her strength. A warrior princess diva, she will fight another day for her sexual power and is always on the journey of self-discovery!
Being a sexual being is a part of you and it can be the one that breaks you or puts you off, so let’s work to empower it! Here are some tips:
- Masturbate! Explore your body everywhere and find out what makes you feel good!
- Dress! I have my hooker boots that I wear with my black panties and bra that only my girl knows how I look in them and she loves to rip them off!
- Some of us girly lesbians have to go looking for sexy underwear … as for my butch chicks and studs, you know we love to see you in boxers or nothing at all under those jeans!
- Have positive sexual messages in your head. Some of us were taught as children to associate shame with sex. Some may also have been survivors of sexual or other abuse and find that being sexually positive can be very difficult. I recommended seeking professional help from a mental health profession to work on those issues.
- If your girl won’t tell you how beautiful and wonderful you are, kick her butt! Tell him how wonderful you feel when he finds out and shares it with you. My stomach lurched when my ex-lady told me, “I am the most beautiful woman in the world,” and I really felt like she meant it!
- Believe in yourself and the limitless things you can do! You are an amazing creature; let me feel your energy ladies!
- Write your thoughts or keep a journal, connecting with your inner self is comforting and healing.
- My clients always laugh at me when I make them do this and I have told them for years that I have practiced this: look in the mirror and say “I love you, you are worth everything!” and then treat yourself to a BIG smile. Has to!
- Become a nudist! This will help you reduce the anxiety of being naked. I grew up on nude beaches so running naked has never been a concern, in fact I’m pretty sure my entire neighborhood knows about my nude ways. I don’t give a st!
- Read lesbian erotic stories … my girl Brook hooked me on these things! Even better, write your own erotic adventure with you in it!
- Go find her first, try to start sex from tonight!
- Read your sex manual, I have a lot on the lesbian literature page of my blog.
- To elaborate! Exercising increases our self-esteem and makes us feel good.
- Smile. Smile. Smile. We want to see your beautiful face!
- Be romantic, buy candles, put on music that makes you want to dance or take off your clothes … get in the mood!
Most importantly, the key is to love who you are and to have a new belief that you deserve to be pleased and to feel pleasure. Do not question who you are, recognize that you are a sexual person with fantasies, needs, secrets, desires, fetishes and desires. Explore your attitude about sex and yourself, and challenge those negative thoughts.
You are a powerful sexual woman, full of passion and delight … say it out loud … say it proud sister!
Alex karydi~ The Lesbian Guru