SHIELD just called. They need your help. No, you don’t have time to finish organizing your sock drawer. The dishes will have to wait.
Today I sat for a minute and watched the father across the street assemble the new tricycle for his son. He watched his son looking at him. I felt the power of that moment.
I think only in movies are men summoned to save the world from darkness. Think again. As a man, you are called upon daily to discover and use your powers. But I have no power, you say? Tsk. Tsk. Tsk. I also thought that way. You’ve bought the lie that you’re a normal person for too long, buddy. Are you ready to start living the life you were destined for?
If you are ready to improve the level of adventure and satisfaction and simply the LIFE that you have been getting, read on. I’m going to give you a 4-step lesson on how to start wearing the cape and stockings in your marriage.
1. Find your strength of loneliness. You are going to need some time and a focused place to work. Spend some time on your schedule and find a venue where you won’t be disturbed. You will need a couple of hours a week. You will use it to be clear about what you want and where you want to go. What do you want to change?
2. Rediscover your origin story. We all have a story. Most likely, yours is fraught with disaster, betrayal, and disappointment like mine. As is everyone’s. You want to be extraordinary, you have to change all this. Now, I’m not saying lie about the facts. Although you could. Nothing wrong with that. But at least I’m saying reinterpret it. Anthony Robbins transformed the painful story of his father’s departure into a powerful reason to make his life extraordinary. Wayne Dyer focused only on the positive aspects of his childhood as an orphan. You are not powerless over the past. In fact, it is the source of your greatness and powers.
3. You have heroes for a reason. Design your character. Most people think that our personalities are fixed. That they are something static that you were born with. The truth is that there are many you. If you think about it, there is a you that you use for your boss. A different one that he uses to hang out with his friends. Other than you are when you play ball with your children. Another that you use with your wife. To see a dramatic example from the book Reinventing Yourself, Steve Chandler says think about what happens when you interact with a baby. You become very friendly and playful and can even speak in a cartoon voice. Forget who you have been up to now. Who do you want to be? Do you want to be confident? Elastic? Decisive? You can be all you need is practice.
4. Start your practice. It will have to start somewhere. There are two parts to the practice. The training and the project. First, decide what features you want to build. You will need to design a daily workout to begin developing those capabilities within yourself. And then you will need a way to put it into practice in the world. Projects are like the regular season game schedule.