It is said that whatever you do and say to others has a way of coming back to you in one form or another. If you do good to others, something good will happen to you and if you are only mean to others, you can be sure that something bad will happen to you at some point in your life. This is why you should always be careful how you treat others in your life.
There are many elements that can be successful; courage, humility, speed and good decision making, however; What you may not realize is that kindness is also an important element. When you are kind to others, you can expect others to be kind to you. Being kind means empathizing with people, understanding their feelings, and trying to help in any way you can.
Even if you are immensely successful, if you are not kind to others, you will not win people’s respect and love. If you have the resources and the ability and you still don’t help those in need, you can’t expect people to regard you with respect. It is not necessary that to be kind you must give monetary help; you can help them in other ways too. Sometimes just saying kind words that you feel with all your heart is more than enough. Most people would just expect you to say nice things and empathize with them.
Even in your personal life, if you lack kindness, your relationships can suffer. Your family needs you to be there for them, they need you to be kind to them when they need it, and they expect you to help them when they are in trouble. If you can’t be kind to your family, you can’t expect your relationships to grow.
What you also need to realize is that it is not important to be kind only to others, you need to be kind to yourself. Most of us only think of kindness in terms of others and never think of it as something that should also be directed towards us. We are often kind to others, but when it comes to ourselves, we are hard on ourselves. You should also be kind to yourself, only then can you have enough love and kindness to share with others.
To be kind to yourself you must:
o Tune in with yourself; don’t ignore your own needs and desires. Know what you want and treat yourself once in a while.
o Don’t be too hard on yourself, it’s important to push yourself to be successful, but there is a line that must be drawn.
o Don’t be too critical of yourself. You must know your own weakness and you must be your own critic, but you must not criticize everything you do. Learn to recognize your strengths, too, and to appreciate yourself for your strengths.
Being kind comes from within, you can’t just say kind words or do kind things without really meaning them and kindness starts with yourself, when you’re kind to yourself you can be kind to others too.